Anal Sex Tips for Beginners: The Keys to the Back Door
Anal sex is no longer a taboo subject - on the contrary: interest is greater than ever. Anal sex is currently taking over every bedroom and allowing couples and sex partners to try out everything it can. This is not surprising, as both the giver and the taker can expect a lot of fun and great climaxes. The butt is a highly erogenous zone, as there are thousands of sensitive and easily stimulated nerve pathways around the anus. In addition, the primary sexual organs are just around the corner and are always stimulated, either actively or passively.
Whether men and men, men and women or women and women: We explain the most important facts to consider before, during and after anal sex - and how your fun is guaranteed!
Anal sex preparation: being well prepared is half the battle!
Anyone who wants to try "sex from behind" usually already knows that it's not usually that spontaneous. Intensive foreplay and some other important preparation are essential for good anal sex. But the basic rule is always: do it the way you feel most comfortable with!
Hygiene: Is showering enough – or do I need an anal douche or colonic irrigation?
In principle, an enema before anal sex is not absolutely necessary - unless you feel like you have to go to the toilet. So you don't have to worry about unpleasant surprises. A shower together, for example, is completely sufficient for adequate hygiene - and stimulates the anticipation!
It is important that you feel comfortable. If your head still feels dirty after a shower, you will hardly relax and enjoy the whole thing - so: To feel clean "inside" and therefore 100% comfortable, an anal douche or enema at home can help. This rinses out the rectum shortly before sex - ideally around 30 minutes to an hour beforehand - and your head is clear.
Anal waxing or shaving: Do I have to do it?
Clearly not. Anal hair removal, like intimate shaving, is purely a matter of taste. However, if you want to try rimming, oral anal sex, you will certainly feel a little more comfortable after professional hair removal. Then our tip is to look for a professional studio - at least the first time.
Just like intimate waxing, anal waxing if done incorrectly can quickly become painful and spoil the fun. You should also be extremely careful with the razor: cuts in the anal region are not only unpleasant, but can also quickly become infected.
Expectation and Reality – Trust and Communication
For a long time, anal sex was a topic that was not discussed in German bedrooms. Unfortunately! Because anyone who wants to try sex from behind has to trust their partner. Therefore, all concerns, but also wishes and expectations, should be discussed openly beforehand. Communication creates trust, and trust literally opens the doors - and "thinking about your partner" takes on a whole new level of meaning. The more relaxed and open you are, the better it will be.
If it doesn't work out right away despite hygiene measures, comprehensive preparation and the right amount of trust, don't be discouraged! Sometimes you don't have the necessary relaxation, the moment isn't quite right or something else isn't working out. Talk and laugh about it together - and just try again if you feel like it!
Anal Sex in Practice: The Best Positions, Toys and Techniques
The same applies to anal sex: whatever you like is allowed. Over time, you'll try out different positions and practices and find out what you enjoy - and what doesn't really fit in your own bedroom. Take your time trying things out.
Until then, you can of course follow our tips.
Pain during anal sex: What to do if it hurts?
"Doesn't that hurt?" is probably the question most often asked when it comes to anal sex. We can't answer with a clear "Never", because until you get to the point of perfect anal sex, there might be some pinching or pressure. But: Anal sex is only good and pain-free if it is done correctly.
Conversely, this means that anal sex should not – and must not – hurt. Extensive foreplay, especially in the butt area, a good amount of lubricant and a relaxed atmosphere ensure that sex from behind is really fun for both partners.
If it does hurt, take a break, massage and caress each other - just keep having fun and don't stress. All beginnings are difficult!
Can the anal sphincter become “stretched” during anal sex?
No. The anal sphincter is a very strong muscle and needs to be loosened and stretched for anal sex, but it contracts again afterwards. It may be that your bottom feels a little "wider" and unusual after anal sex - but this is really only a temporary feeling. Don't worry: you are not at risk of incontinence from anal sex!
The best positions – especially for beginners
There are actually no "best" positions - but there are positions that are more comfortable than others, especially at the beginning. It is easiest if the receiver's legs are bent sharply: This makes the first penetration very pleasant because the intestines are "curved free". A special plus: the bottom is practically on display and the receiver gets to see something. ;-)
Such positions are for example:
- Doggy style, kneeling or standing
- Lazy Dog
- spoonful
If you want to feel particularly safe as a receiver at the beginning and don't want to give the giver complete control, you can try positions in which you retain more control: for example, over how and how deeply your partner can penetrate.
For example, we recommend:
- rider position or reverse rider
- lotus position
Just test what you like and what makes you feel good!
Pre-stretch your anus and have fun at the same time? Toy, toy, toy!
“Pre-stretching” is a big topic when it comes to anal sex – and to a certain extent, it can make sense. Sex toys in different sizes are best for this. But remember: butt plugs, vibrators and other anal sex toys are definitely not just for stretching and practicing, they are also really fun!
Whether for masturbation, foreplay or sex with your partner - there are many possible uses. Our tip: start small. For example, with a small plug or vibrator that is only used externally at first. Don't overestimate yourself at the beginning and slowly find out what you really like and how "far" you can go.
Anal-oral: Rimming or anilingus
Rimming (also called anilingus) is a very special and widespread form of anal sex in which oral satisfaction is the main focus. From gentle kissing to licking to penetration with the tongue, everything is allowed - and desired.
Anyone who has never tried it may be wondering: "And that's supposed to be fun?" We can say: Yes! To a certain extent, the "temptation of the forbidden" plays a role here, which makes the whole thing a little more exciting. Apart from that, there are an incredible number of sensitive nerve endings in the anal region, so that stimulation with the tongue becomes a very special experience.
Rimming – Hygiene is a matter of taste
As with anal sex, there are some hygiene concerns with anilingus. And the same rules apply here too: shower or bathe beforehand - preferably together - and wash very thoroughly. An enema can make you feel better, but is not absolutely necessary.
For spontaneous moments or for extra security, there are also special licking cloths that prevent direct tongue contact with the anus. If this creates too much of a hospital atmosphere in the bedroom, you can sweeten the start of rimming in another way: simply try the "cherry" with syrup, honey or whipped cream. It's worth it!
In addition to the tongue, fingers or smaller sex toys can of course be added at any time – there are no limits to your imagination!
Risks of anal sex?
The neighbors might complain about the noise... No, seriously: Anal sex - for all its beauty - can also bring with it minor "dangers" that are easily avoidable.
Injuries, irritation of the anal sphincter or intestinal wall, and infections are possible, but very, very unlikely if you remain careful and relaxed. And above all: don't skimp on the lubricant! A thicker, natural-based lubricant is best, as it "lubricates" for longer and is gentler on the intestinal flora.
You can also almost completely eliminate the risk of infection by using condoms. We would also like to expressly recommend this! It is particularly important to change condoms between anal and vaginal intercourse to prevent infections in the vagina.
Let’s get to the point: Anal orgasm – truth or myth?
Whether you can have an anal orgasm depends on your individual body type. There are differences not only between men and women, but also from person to person. In theory, however, an anal orgasm is definitely possible!
Both the clitoral triangle (the sensitive nerve pathways between the glans, the clitoris and the vaginal opening) and the prostate in men receive intense stimuli during anal sex, which can build up to an intense climax. Simultaneous stimulation of the penis or vagina allows for a completely new and indescribable sexual sensation - one that you just have to experience!
However, you should not expect the same orgasm that you get from vaginal penetration or masturbation. The feeling is different - but incredible in the truest sense of the word!
The best thing to do is stop reading and just try it out.
Have fun!
